Intentions set the universe in motion

Your intention sets the universe in motion. The universe flows in the direction of your intention, and so it is important to be clear on your exact intention in any situ­ation. If you are absolutely clear as to your intent, your subconscious success mechanism will support you in getting there.

Dr Robert Anthony is of the opinion that most people encounter problems in creat­ing the kind of life they want because they have not clearly determined where they want to go, or visualised what it is going to look like when they get there. Those who lead purposeful, successful lives do so because they have set up in their mind a clear picture of what they want to create in their lives.

The reasons most New Year resolutions do not work is because they are not an image of the end result, but rather a negative reaction – a form of negative self-talk about what you do not want. And this is the reason why so many world problems, business problems and personal problems persist; the individuals concerned focus on the problem and what they don’t want to happen, rather than on the end result or what they want.

A new look at goal setting

Goal setting is the key factor that will determine your success or failure in the doing and having portion of your life. Did you ever take a business trip without at least having some idea where you were going? Did you ever play tennis without knowing where the tennis court was? Have you ever left your house to do your weekly shopping without having at least some idea of where you were going to shop? Have you ever taken a holiday without knowing where you wanted to go? Isn’t it strange that the holidays we take merit goals, the games we play merit goals and even the shopping we do merits goals, but we rarely establish goals for the most important journey of all – our own life.

Most people rarely establish goals for the most important journey of all – our own life because they do not want to be pinned down. They want to be spontaneous. They want to be free to change their mind. Well, sometimes we mistaken­ly think that freedom means avoiding commitment. We fear that if we commit to some­thing it will own and control us and so we avoid being the cause of our life and avoid making commitments. We say, “I want to be free.” However, true freedom actually lies in our ability to make choices and commitments. The question we have to ask ourselves is “What do I really want?” Start from the position that at some level you absolutely know what you want. At some point you have to make a decision. Keep this in mind – If you do not decide, someone else will decide for you; and their decision may not be what you truly want.

Start by making a decision

Hidden within indecisiveness is the goal of always being right. As long as we do not know what we want, we will never be wrong, never make a mistake, and hence we will never be disappointed. We have been programmed since childhood not to make mistakes. By being indecisive we can remain a child. The moment we decide to take charge of our lives is the moment we really leave home. Once we start making decisions for ourselves, we are on our own.

It is safer not to make deci­sions, to be passive, childish and to take our cue from others. Making a decision always reveals something about you. Making a decision tells people who you are. And so, making a decision is essentially divulging a great secret. If your purpose in life is not to reveal who you are, then you will always remain undecided.

Another reason for indeci­siveness is the fear that we may have to give up something. To choose one goal means you may have to give up others. If you decide on a certain way, it means you may have to give up other paths. It means you cannot be everything, do everything and have everything at the same time. It means you cannot please everybody. When you make a choice, you run the risk of rejecting the values of certain people. They may see you as you really are, not the way they want you to be. In other words, not like them. So by doing nothing, you are able to retain the love and approv­al of different people whose values contradict each other, and your indecisiveness helps you to avoid trying to reconcile situations that cannot possibly be reconciled.

Everything in life is a choice

Everything in life is a matter of choice. There are only two things we have no choice about. We cannot avoid these two things no matter how hard we try. The first is that we must die. Death is an absolute certainty. And the second thing we have no choice about is that we must live until we die. Now under­stand this – everything else in your life that you think you have to do, or are forced to do, is a choice.

You and I do everything because we choose to do it. We can’t change the fact that we are going to die or that we must live until we die. But we can change anything else because every­thing else is a choice. Look at all the areas of your life and realise you do everything in your life because you CHOOSE to do it, not because you HAVE to do it. Remember – the only two things you have NO CHOICE about is; you have to die, and you have to live until you die. Period!

Look at where you are in your life right now. Where you are is where you want to be. Con­sciously or unconsciously, you have made a choice. If you want to go anywhere, you must first understand where you are right now. Many people lie to them­selves about where they are, and they deny their situation in life. But it is absolutely essential that you acknowledge where you are before you can move on.

You have to tell the truth about where you are before you can move on. If you are in pain, admit it. If something is not working, admit it. So look at where you are right now, and then deciding where you want to go. Let your mind be open to new possibilities.

What do you really want?

Remember, at the Being level, you are total power and you can create anything that you want. When you are free to choose, how do you spend your time? Is there some kind of activi­ty that keeps you interested? Whatever reason you might give yourself for doing it, you have an important clue as to what you really want to do. On the other hand, if you find yourself in your free time doing nothing but sleeping, daydreaming, or watching television, that is a pretty good sign that you have not allowed yourself to experi­ence what you really want.

If you were relieved of all practical considerations, includ­ing financial considerations, and if all the possibilities were open to you, what would be the first thing that you would do? What would be the next thing that you would do? What would you do with your life if this happened? This question can be fun because it helps to make your fantasies conscious. Perhaps you even have a fantasy that keeps coming back? Take a look at those fantasies and choose something.

You can always change it if you do not like it. You are only committed to it for as long as you want to be committed to it. So make a choice. Start creating what you want in your mind. Have the total experience in mind first. Feel that way, be that way and imagine it happen­ing just the way you want it to happen.

BY CAPT. SAM ADDAIH (RTD)